Friday, February 27, 2009

Diagnosis

Yesterday Phat Daddy and I met with Doodle's psychologist to get his diagnosis.
Unsurprisingly, it's ADHD - combined.
There was good news and there was bad news. The good news is that Doodle is smart - very smart. In all of the testing he did he scored really well - like 91st percentile and up. The only thing he was behind in was hand coordination (writing/drawing), but he was fairly typical, so not lagging behind.
Where the problem lies is with, as the diagnosis would suggest, hyperactivity and lack of focus/attention.
The long and short of it is that the psychologist is recommending medication.
We haven't decided.
When I asked him on a scale of 1-10 how bad Doodle's ADHD is, he said it was about a 7. That surprised me. I thought we'd be talking a 3. Although it is a random scale.
We're not talking Ritalin. There are other options and ideas to look into.
The major reason I would consider the medication is because of Doodle's lack of self control. He has so many moments DAILY where he does something and then wishes he hadn't. Or can't understand why he did.
And the medication would apparently help with that.
As he gets older I worry that he will hurt himself. For that reason I'd consider it.
So, we're at the point where we need to weigh all the options. Think about what we think is best for our child. And hope that we make the right decision.
But, really, at the end of the day, it freaks me out that we're debating giving our child medication for his brain that he could be on for the rest of his life. It scares me.
But, it also makes me feel like maybe the fact that I'm frustrated with him a lot means that I'm not a bad parent.
So, what's next? Well, thankfully we love Doodle's doctors. So, I called both his GP and Naturopath. Our GP, knowing my discomfort with medication, said I can meet with her or she can refer me to a pediatrician or both. We're going to see our naturopath to discuss options.
But, before all of that ....
We're getting a good night's sleep. Or maybe not. I promised Doodle a sleepover in his bedroom tonight. Well, at least Phat Daddy will get a good night's sleep!

5 comments:

Steph said...

I'm sure you'll make the right decision for Doodle and for everyone as a family.I know it's a tough decision but I think it's really great that it sounds like you're exploring all avenues medical and otherwise. You're very very patient!!!

citygirl said...

I have some experience with ADD (not with a child, but a couple of adults - seriously). I went out with a guy for 7 years who had ADD. His mom and I were always comparing notes on how he was doing/what he had done lately. It was an interesting relationship. I seemed to calm him for some reason and his mother loved me for that.

My other experience was someone I worked with. Good thing I came with experience.

Haley-O said...

Can you get a second opinion? Some doctors are so eager to prescribe medication....

One of my yoga students gives her kid medication - I don't think it's ridalin (sp?), though.

It'll be good to see what your naturopath has to say. If you think he's a 3, then he's probably a 3....

Keep us posted. Hugs....

Olivia said...

Sorry to hear that. It's a tough decision, for sure.
But, with all due respect, given Doodle's four cavities (as noted below), do you think maybe it's the sugar?

LD said...

Hi Olivia
As far as we're concerned sugar is not the issue. He definitely reacts to sugar, so we watch how much he has and when he has it.
We've done a pretty strict elimination diet, and Doodle's sugar intake is fairly limited.
I asked his dentist about the cavities, but he said it's more his teeth and the ridges than the sugar intake.